You Are What You Think
When you wake up in the morning, how hard is it to convince yourself that you are too tired to get up? Not very? How about feeling sick? Is it easy or hard to make yourself feel worse? It really isn’t that hard. All you need to do is think about it for a bit and soon your head is pounding, your neck aches, and your back has a shooting pain running through it.
Let me tell you, a few minutes before I began writing this, I was saying to myself, “I’m already a few posts ahead of schedule, why bother writing today. I’m tired and just don’t feel like it.”
And, I almost convinced myself. Then, I realized I’ll never achieve my goal of completing my next book by the end of the next week if I take the easy way out. So, my thoughts tell me that I don’t want to write. Too bad. I’m going to write anyway. All I must do is turn my thoughts around and pick up a pen. The funny thing is, by the time I write the second sentence, I can’t stop writing.
All it takes is mindset. If I want to be productive, I need to think, “I like to work. I feel good when I create. Let’s get busy”. And, I need to get busy. If I want to stop feeling tired, I need to tell myself, “Get up”. And, get up. If I want to feel grateful, I need to think of gratitude.
While there are few things in life that we have control over, we do have control over our thoughts. We can’t control other people. Or, what they say and do to us. However, we can determine how we perceive and respond to our experiences. We do not have to be victims or be destined to go through life like a ping pong ball that bounces off the table and walls. We have choices.
Choice of What You Feel
Your number one choice is to choose what you feel about a specific situation. If you feel negative about something, you can choose to have a better feeling thought. For example, if you feel down about a friend not calling you back, you should think positively about the situation. Sure, it’s easy (if you let it) to catastrophize and decide that your friend never liked you and that you aren’t worthy of having friends. On the other hand, it is less destructive to think your friend got busy, feel concerned for her, and to subsequently reach out to her instead. Wouldn’t that feel better?
No One Can Make You Feel Anything
Your kids misbehaving doesn’t make you feel mad. You make yourself mad over your interpretation of their misbehavior and how it reflects on you or interferes with your life. Two co-workers chatting in the next office doesn’t make you jealous. Your belief that they are talking about you or excluding you is what makes you feel sad or anger. You control how you feel. Again, another person doesn’t make you feel any sort of way, so stop placing blame on others for how you feel.
You Can Choose Your Thoughts
Don’t get lulled into the belief that you can’t change your thoughts – you can. More importantly, by choosing the thoughts in your head, you can change your feelings. There is no purpose in wallowing in bad feelings or thoughts. You will only feel worse. Instead, you should think of positive thoughts. One great option is to think of something that you are grateful for. Even in the darkest of times, there are things to feel grateful about – children laughing, waterfalls, oceans, sunshine, the moon, stars, and trees to name several.
Your Thoughts Dictate Your Experience
If you see a flat tire as evidence that nothing ever works out for you – nothing will work out for you. Consequently, if you think that a flat tire is a problem to be conquered to show off your resourcefulness, you will reaffirm your resourcefulness. What do you affirm about yourself? Do you see instances where your thoughts determine how you experience things? Especially challenges? How can you look at these challenges with a silver lining?
Don’t Give Your Power Away
When you focus on what you don’t like, what’s wrong, or what you don’t want, you end up getting it. Why? Because when you focus on your lack of money, all you see is more instances of your lack of money. Have you ever noticed when you were considering making a purchase and everywhere you looked you saw that thing? Say you were thinking about buying a Jeep. How often did you see a Jeep after you began Jeep shopping? Every where you went is likely the answer.
Were there more Jeeps? Heck no, there weren’t magically more Jeeps in the world. You were just attuned to Jeeps and noticed them when you saw one. The same thing happens when you focus on complaining about your job, “I hate my job”, your weight, “I’m fat”, and the weather, “It’s cold”. What you think is what you get. Take back your power and put your attention on what is good in your life. This is where the magic is – you feel good.
Feel Positive About Yourself
Many of us can be super critical of ourselves. These critical thoughts leave us feeling less than and unfortunately become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead, be kind to yourself. Be grateful for yourself. By having positive and supportive thoughts about yourself, you will feel good.
You Manifest Your Expectations
When you believe that you won’t succeed – you won’t. It isn’t because the world is out to get you. It’s because you give up. You give off an aura of defeat, negativity, or despondence. Therefore, people avoid you and you can’t succeed without others. If you believe that you will be successful, you will manifest success. It isn’t because the world hands it to you on a silver platter. It’s because you keep trying. You’re persistent. You’re determined. And, you have confidence in yourself. When you see the positive and are grateful for the positive, positive things happen. You see the beauty of your life and the world around you.
Your Feelings Indicate Your Thoughts
If you are feeling depressed – you’re thinking depressive thoughts. “My life’s a mess. I have nothing worth living for. No one likes me. Nothing ever works out for me.” You will manifest more depression with depressive thoughts. When you feel jealous, you are thinking jealous thoughts, “I’m not good enough. He will always be looking at someone else. He’s going to leave me.” That jealousy will make you desperate, clingy, and unattractive to your partner; eventually, this will lead to a broken relationship. To turn it around, you should be aware of your feelings and change your thoughts.
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