Why Won’t Your Child Do Chores?
You’ve asked your 8 year old to put away the clothes on his bed. When you go back by his room, he hasn’t put them away. You remind him again before going back into the kitchen to finish dinner. From the depths of his bedroom, you hear him watching a YouTube video.
“Put away the clothes. Now!”
You might have raised your voice. A lot.
Instead of going to his bedroom at the time, you return to your meal preparation and forget about the laundry.
An hour later on your way to the bathroom, you catch a glimpse of the folded jeans now knocked on the ground along with the pillows and stuffed animals that were once on your son’s bed.
Why is it so hard to do the chores? This is similar to picking up their stuff. It is something that he is asked to do alone. There is no adrenaline rush from doing the chores. He would much rather be doing something that gives him instant gratification: playing video games, spinning his fidget spinner, watching endless YouTube videos of other people playing video games, or laying on the sofa whining about not wanting to do his chores.
It’s hard enough to get him to go to the bathroom!
Tips to Help with Chores:
- Follow Through – Ensure the job gets done. If you don’t check in at the time, they will have that hope you’ll forget and they won’t ever have to do it.
- Teamwork – Make it a group activity. Chores are more fun as a family.
- Work Before Fun – No fun until the work is done.
- Timer – Set a time period. Either set a timer or establish a time that the chores must be done.
- Distractions – Stop outside influences. They can’t focus if there are other things going on.
I hope these ideas help you tackle getting your child to help with the chores.