Why I Work Outside the Home
At times, my husband gets frustrated when one of the boys gets in trouble at school and says, “We should homeschool the boys”. Meaning, I should stay home and teach them. I look at him like he’s said I should stop drinking soda or eating chocolate. You might not know me very well, but it isn’t likely that I will ever give up on caffeine and sugar.
Let me tell you a quick story. When I was 17, I had enrolled in a college to become an elementary school teacher. That kind of makes it sound like I would make a good home school mom. Right? No.
What actually happened was at the same time I enrolled in college, I was also a cadet teacher for the first grade class. I doubt in this day and age that they still call it a cadet teacher, because I graduated from high school ages ago. Anyway, a cadet teacher was a senior or junior that assisted one hour during the day with an elementary class.
Half of the time that I sat with the first grade class was reading and the other half was recess. There was only one little boy that stayed in during recess to work with me. It only took a couple of days for me to realize I was not going to be a teacher. I’m serious. Half of it was recess and I still couldn’t handle it.
I quickly discovered that I have no patience for people who don’t already understand the concept that I’m trying to teach. Not to mention, chaos and noise for hours at a time is something that drains my energy fast.
My husband and I have been together for 20 years. Seriously, what makes him think I could home school our kids? He’s heard me trying to get the boys to write out their spelling words and I don’t understand common core math….at all! Just to clarify, working with the boys on writing spelling words is worse than trying to get ink out of a white shirt. They twist, turn, drop pencils, lay their head down on the counter, hit their heads with their hands, sigh, groan, and roll their eyes before writing the first letter. Then, they tell me it is my fault they can’t concentrate!
That was kind of a long story to tell you that I’m not going to home school my kiddos. I believe it takes a village to raise a family and they need to get out there to that village.
I love my kids, but I’m not going to be a stay at home mom either. Unless, they go to daycare or school for most of the day. My children are all high energy and I’d lose my sh*t by 10 o’clock in the morning if I stayed at home with them every day. I’m an OCD, introvert that can only handle chaos (yelling, wrestling, arguing, fighting, tattling, pushing, shoving, running, snorting, getting all their junk out and tossing it on the floor to find one Lego, farting, peeing on things, and asking for something every 30 seconds) in short bursts of time.
They deserve to have a break from me as well. They need to be with people that thrive on teaching structure to noisy, little people. I love our daycare and my children’s teachers. And, yes, they still call themselves a daycare and pre-school rather than an early learning center. We might be slow to that party here in the Midwest. They also get the opportunity to make friends and play to their heart’s content between learning sessions.
I don’t have any negative feelings towards SAHMs. I think it is AWESOME. If you love it, do it!
However, I go to work to have peace and quiet. I get to sit down most of the day and have conversations with other adults. Then, I get to pick up my kids at the end of the day and watch them run to my arms excited to see me. They can’t wait to tell me about their day. Okay, that is a bit of an exaggeration. Most of the time, they don’t even remember what they had for snack 2 hours before!
What do you like best about your work/home lifestyle?
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