Yesterday, both my sons decided that they just had to have this yo-yo that the school was selling for some fundraiser.
Yes, I’m that mom that used to feel obligated to participate in fundraisers. This lasted a whole year to a year and a half. Then, I took my own mommy guilt inventory and decided I was done.
All of my children handle transitions or anything new horribly. Quick funny story. When my sons were 3 and 4, I had a couple of cotton balls out for something. They saw the bag and spent 30 minutes tossing cotton balls in the air, running and laughing hysterically. They were out of control. Over a cotton ball. But, it was kind of funny for us, because they couldn’t say cotton ball, they kept shouting, “Coc ‘n ball! Coc ‘n ball!”
By the time my 2nd son was in school and was having a meltdown over a Garfield key chain, I was pretty much done. If he sold over $5 worth of junk, he would have his very own. However, every time one of our children got something that the rest of them did not, we had to endure a meltdown from the 2 that didn’t get to go to the school store or purchase a fundraiser “gift”. Every time. Needless to say, there were numerous crumbling to the ground, wailing fits over worthless plastic toys that broke the first time someone used them; which also led to another meltdown.
After so many of these incidents, I was done. I hated the school store and fundraisers sucked.
Now, I’m the mom that tosses fundraisers and all other such junk in the trash as soon as I uncover it from in their backpacks. I know. It makes me a bad person that I don’t support the school. Don’t care. I also didn’t buy 5 poop emoji’s from both of my boys this year and have to listen to my daughter wail about not getting her own pile of poop, so who’s the bad parent? More like, who’s the smart parent.
And, I do support the school. I own a home and vehicles and pay an inordinately high amount for taxes for the school district. I buy their school supplies. I take my kids to all their school activities. I supply snacks if it is our turn. I pay for field trips. But, I draw the line at paying $5 or more for something they don’t really want or won’t play with for more than 5 minutes.
Fast forward to last night. My middle son met me at the door of the daycare to tell me about this yo-yo. He said it was $10. $10! You’ve got to be kidding me. What it had better do is walk the dog! 🙂 He assured me that it did.
I told him that I wasn’t spending $10 on a plastic piece of junk that he wouldn’t play with or would break. My other son popped up and said he wanted one as well. Still no.
I reminded them that they didn’t play with toys very much anymore; that they tend to give up when they can’t figure something out the first few times they try; and the fact that yo-yo’s shouldn’t cost $10. I also explained to them that the school was trying to raise money and that a yo-yo doesn’t cost that much money. Lastly, they have so much junk that they already don’t play with.
Anyway, after much debate, they decided to use their tooth fairy money and other odds and ends change that they had received over time to buy the yo-yo’s that they won’t play with. Whatever. It’s their money and now their broke.
After putting the money in their backpacks, my middle child decided that he needed to start making some money to make up for what he was going to spend on the yo-yo. He told me that he would do all my chores and I could take a nap. As much as I would like to take a nap, I don’t think that is a good idea.
How do you handle cheap things that your child just has to have? Oh, don’t tell me your perfect and you’ve never given in! You wouldn’t be on my site if you were perfect. And, you certainly wouldn’t appreciate my humor!
**Spoiler: The yo-yo was only $8. Wow so much cheaper. And, they’ve played with them for about 30 minutes over 2 days.
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