Overwhelm in the 21st Century
Why do mother’s become overwhelmed in the 21st century? There are numerous reasons, but the big 3 in my opinion are the internet, public censure, and a lack of appreciation.
Internet – Through the internet, specifically Facebook, you get to see all these women who are using social media and their lives look perfect next to theirs. All their posts are of their perfect children (who have impeccable manners and don’t move unless told to move), their amazing husband (who caters to their every need), and their long, shiny, fabulous hair.
Let me tell you. When my hair is long it looks like a frizz ball and gives me a double, if not a triple chin.
I’m going to share a little story about my “perfect” family photos. I had to have someone come to my house and dress my daughter or she would have not worn anything. She also brushed her hair or it would have been sticking out in all directions and covering her beautiful brown eyes.
When we got to the photography studio, my boys touched everything and even put on a little wrestling match. Then, my daughter wouldn’t but on her spin-y dress that I bought specifically for the photo shoot. It wasn’t until I left the room that the photographer got her into the dress.
It took 300 hundred photos to come up with the 20 that we used. They were good, but the “real” life images were pretty messy.
Public censure – Trolls seem to always be waiting to jump out of the woodwork as soon as a mom posts something/anything on social media. If it isn’t “perfect” parenting, they will be all over some innocent mom who is trying to share a sweet story about her child or ask a simple question.
But, there are no simple questions. You don’t dare ask a question about breast feeding, corporal punishment, or getting your child to sleep through the night without someone insulting their intelligence or ability to parent a child. You’re a horrible person if you co-sleep…if you let your child cry herself to sleep…if your child actually sleeps through the night at 3 months old. How dare you! It is impossible to live up to the image of “perfect” parenting.
Lack of appreciation – most mothers do the majority of the housework and raising the children. Not to mention if you attempt to work out of the home or work from home. There is little thanks for all that you do to keep everything going. The only recognition that you likely get is if you forget to do something and then the world comes crashing to an end. That can be very disheartening.
Why do you become overwhelmed?