Do You Worry Too Much?
So, why do some people worry more than others?
There is some research that indicates worry can have a genetic or an early environmental link. While other research indicates that excessive worry can come from parents that were overprotective or children that worried about their parents while they were growing up. Additionally, some research claims that you can also learn to worry by having peers/friends that worry.
I’m not going to proclaim to know the answer. However, I do know the result. You worry about what is going to happen in the future and fret about what you didn’t do in the past. You are not centered in the present and what you can do right now. Lastly, you can’t see that there can be a better future than your current present, if you continue to put in work every day.
Do you worry too much?
10 Signs that You Worry too Much
- You can’t go to sleep. If you go to bed and you can’t turn off your brain, you’re worrying too much. Everything you didn’t do, everything that you need to do, everything that went wrong, and everything that could go wrong, are circling in your brain.
- Your friends steer clear of you. When you meet with your friends and all you do is talk about how you worried you are, you’re probably a Debbie Downer. If all of your conversations start with: my child is never going to have friends, my husband is going to lose his job, and my boss is out to get me; your friends cringe when you call. Unless, your friends are also stuck in the tar pit of despair.
- You’re always searching for impending doom. Are you on constant vigil? Do you think your child is going to be kidnapped if she goes outside alone to the mailbox? Have you stared at all the adults at the park trying to figure out who they are with to make sure they aren’t sex offenders? Speaking of sex offenders, do you know where all of them live within your town? Do you do background checks on the parents of your children’s friends? Do you let your children go to their friend’s houses? Without you?
- You eat to avoid your feelings or you skip meals. When you are filled with worry, you can find yourself eating a whole box of Oreos to feel better before you even realize it. Or, you get to the end of the day and your stomach is crying out for a foil packaged MRE. Anything would do at that point.
- You replay everything in your mind: over and over again. Does every decision or conversation that you’ve had with your children play over and over in an endless loop in your mind? When you have a disagreement with a co-worker, have you played out what you did say, what you should have said, and what you would never say; until you don’t even remember what actually happened?
- You feel resentful. Do you obsess over perceived slights? If a co-worker doesn’t invite you to walk to a meeting with her, do you worry that she is mad at you? What about your husband. Do you find yourself thinking of every single thing that you do around the house, if he so much as says one word about something that you didn’t do?
- You’re obsessed with your phone. Have you checked your phone since you started this post? More than once?
- Your blood pressure is sky high. When you go to the doctor, do they ask you why you’re blood pressure is over 150? Are you dizzy a lot? Do you feel faint? These could all be physical signs of excessive worry.
- You expect the worst. Are you constantly on the lookout for how something can go wrong? Let me give you a couple of examples: Do you expect your boss to hate your work? Do you expect someone else to get a raise? Get a promotion? What kind of vibe are you sending out into the world?
- You’re overcome with guilt. Do you fret over every decision that you’ve made? Are you worried that you aren’t a good mother? An adequate employee? A loving spouse? Do you feel guilty about worrying about worrying?
How high is your number? Take a moment and calculate how many you said yes to.
Less than half? More than half? I got 4. I’m probably a moderate excessive worrier.
If you answered yes to more than 6 of the signs, you might be getting into high excessive worry range.
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