Are You Free?
What does being free mean? Does it mean doing whatever you want without responsibility or consequences? Does it mean living a life without care?
I know I’ve envisioned a life at the beach, sipping on cocktails and watching the sunset? However, when I went to the beach, there were too many people there and I was scared to death that I would lose one of my kids. Then, I had a tampon failure – complete with a red spot on my leggings; the kids kept disappearing, and there was sand in my shoes.
Oh, let’s not forget the kids disappearing again when it was time to go. Did I mention the kids kept getting lost? I’m thinking I might have brought that up once or twice.
Last, but not least, when I opened the door to the van, I thought my husband unlocked them for me.
He did not.
I managed to leave the doors of the van unlocked with my purse inside when we went to the beach.
So, maybe this carefree beach life is not for me.
You thought I was done, didn’t you?
Wrong. Then, we had to listen to my daughter crying because she couldn’t get the sand out of her mouth. Great times.
Where Does My Freedom Come From?
Where did I find freedom? The outdoor pool at the hotel that felt like a sauna. Who knew the most fun I would have would be at the Holiday Inn Express? Why was it so great? No one else was there besides my husband and kids. The pool was warm. Moreover, we were playing together as a family. Sometimes the simple things far outweigh all the planning you can do.
Fantasies of escape rarely keep you happy for long, if they even bring you joy at all. Unless you are fulfilled and satisfied inside, no amount of freedom will bring you happiness.
When am I most free? When my husband is interacting with our children is one of the times that I feel the freest from the stresses of the world. Almost 3 years ago, my husband had a stroke, so it is difficult for him to feel safe enough to interact with the kids in most social settings. As a result, any time he feels comfortable enough to “play” with them in a public place, my heart is free. My spirit is filled with joy and freedom for all of us.
On a personal note, I feel freedom when I write. It is both relaxing and energizing to create and write. If I don’t write, I feel edgy and within days, I become depressed and dissatisfied with life.
What do I get from writing? I get to share my thoughts and opinions with others. I get to analyze and deepen my existence. I’m able to inspire others. Furthermore, I get to escape in the joy of words and other locations when I write fiction.
Writing is a way to work through my shortcomings, release my burdens, challenge my faulty beliefs, and be alive.
Where do you feel most free? What could you do to feel alive? Here are 10 tips to help you find your freedom.
Keep It Simple
If you’re like me, when you put al these extravagant plans into effect, (i.e., travel plans, Pinterest ideas, etc.) they tend to fall a little flat. Instead, think of activities that you do that are simple.
For example, starting the fireplace and sitting in the dark listening to scary stories with the kids is a great place to start.
Movement can really help to improve your mood. Any time you feel like you’ve been sitting too long, get up and walk around for a few moments. Release those endorphins. If you enjoy yoga, be sure to include yoga in your daily routine. Maybe you prefer to be outside walking the dog or taking the kid for a stroll. The form of movement doesn’t matter as much as getting up and going.
Be in Nature
Again, getting outside can be a great way to feel free. Being stuck in an office or in your living room all day can be quite isolating and can even end up being depressing. Every day you should strive to get some time in the sun or looking at the sky if it is at night. Take time to appreciate the vast world that was created for you. Study what you see.
I enjoy looking at the stars at night. It is peaceful and serene. Until my kids start running around like crazy fools trying to wake up the neighbors. Go outside after the kids go to bed and start up the fire pit!
For me, it is a constant struggle to be mindful. I must be diligent in staying focused on the present. However, there really is only now. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow isn’t here yet.
It is so easy to fall into the trap of fretting over what you should have done or what horrendous mistake you made or agonizing over what you’re going to do tomorrow or in 20 years.
Have Deep Conversations
Listen more, pay attention, don’t interrupt, watch for hidden meanings, and talk about topics that hold importance. Your relationships with loved ones can be drastically increased by truly being present during your interactions. You will develop a deeper understanding and increase your connection.
Learning is freedom. The more you explore, the more freedom you have. Every day, you should carve out at least 15 minutes to learn something about yourself or something about the world. If you are open, you will discover a trail of crumbs that will lead you to freedom from limiting beliefs and unresolved conflicts.
Don’t get hung up on your stick figures or dropped cake center. There are numerous things that you can do to be creative. You can write, sing, dance, play, act, cook, or sculpt to name a few. Whatever lights your fire is what you should be doing to increase your feeling of energy and freedom.
When you hurry, you feel little freedom. You are dictated by time and your to-do list. I know. we’re all proud of our massive to-do list and what all we can accomplish in a day. But, it’s time to slow down. Take a deep breath. Everything does not have to be done in a day. I know I struggle with this and building my business. One of the purposes behind building my business was increased freedom. When I take even less time to enjoy life by trying to do everything, I’ve kind of defeated the purpose. Take time now.
Believe that you are good enough. That you are strong enough. That you are beautiful enough. Focus on these simple affirmations to embed your worth inside of you. “I’m worthy. I’m creative. I’m loved. I’m loving. I’m worth it. I’m successful.”
Heal Your Inner Child
We are bound by the things that occurred to us when we were too young to understand, rationalize, or explain what was going on at a deeper level. As a result, we tend to carry around a lot of baggage that dictates our present circumstances. Whether these situations and experiences were how we think they occurred or not is irrelevant. Our perception is all that matters. Consequently, it is our responsibility to attend to our hurt child and embrace her in love, safety, and security. Once you’ve healed her, you can truly be free.
What is freedom for you? Are you free?
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