9 Lessons to Teach Your Child
I’m not going to proclaim that I’m perfect on the following lessons. More days than I would like to admit, I find myself wanting to toss these lessons out the window and run for the nearest pastry shop.
Actually, that probably has more to do with my husband’s current low carb and low sugar diet. I’m 44 years old and I never thought I would attempt giving up pastries, breads, and other sugar products, but outside of the headache, it’s not going too bad!
I’m practically an expert – 3 whole days in!!!
Back to my kids. Parenting is hard, but I must push through the difficult times to prepare my children to be the adults that I want them to be. Adults that other people will want to be around. Ones that I will be proud of.
Children don’t deserve a “cookie” for every good deed they do. They shouldn’t get everything that they want and when they want it.
If you do, you’ll end up with a teen that has the motto of, “I want what I want, when I want it.”
This is a recipe for disaster.
How can you prevent this from happening? Here’s how.
9 Lessons to Teach Your Child
- Respect – Your child should not talk back to adults or people in authority. Debating and negotiation are excellent skills to teach and have, but your child should be well aware of when debating should stop…and stop.
- Caring for Others – Your child needs to learn the art of caring for other’s physical and emotional wellbeing. This is not a natural occurrence. We are born only caring about our needs, safety, and security. As a parent, it is your responsibility to teach your child that the needs of others are important.
- Manners – Teach your child to have manners. To say “please” and “thank you”. To ask for something instead of grabbing for it. To not snatch things out of people’s hands. To wait their turn. To not interrupt others. Not only do you have to constantly remind your children to do these things, you need to model this behavior yourself.
- Sportsmanship – Share with your child the importance of being good sports. If they win, teach them not to rub it in other people’s faces; gloating is unattractive. They should thank the other person for playing with them and encourage the other child that, with practice, they can do better.
- Work Hard – Instill the concept of never giving up. Children need to understand that if they knew how to do something the first time they did it, it wouldn’t be called “learning”. Stop the negative self talk and defeatist attitude. Show up. Keep trying. Work hard.
- Consequences – There must be consequences for negative behavior. You can’t always protect your child from getting into trouble. You might not always be consistent and that isn’t the end of the world. However, you child needs to understand that the behavior is not acceptable.
- Honesty – The truth should be applauded. Yes, there will still be consequences for inappropriate behavior, but honesty is a virtue to be rewarded. Hiding and keeping secrets will lead to a lack of respect in themselves and others.
- Acceptance – The importance of the acceptance of other people and their differences is imperative. Others should not be belittled or put down because they look or think differently.
- Gratitude – This one might be the hardest one to teach. It actually might be impossible to have gratitude without the other lessons in place. As respect starts the entire process, gratitude will end it. Children must be told “no” in order to appreciate what they have.
What lessons do you feel are the most important in raising a future adult?