6 Ways to Tell the Good Advice from the Bad
How do you know if you are getting good or bad advice?
Does your gut tell you that it is wrong? Then it probably is.
Advice doesn’t even have to be wrong. It might just be wrong for you. The person who is giving you the advice might have a point of view that is in conflict with yours. In those cases, you can dismiss the advice while respecting their opinion.
Some questions that you should ask yourself when receiving advice include: does the person have your best interest at heart; is there an ulterior motive for the advice; is the person trying to put you down or make you feel bad; or is the person giving advice on a topic that they have no knowledge regarding?
If the answer to any of these questions is, “yes”, then you need to either listen to the advice with caution or walk away.
Let me get more specific.
6 Ways to Tell the Good Advice from the Bad:
- Listening and empathizing. Did the person listen to your concerns prior to telling you what to do? If someone is telling your what to do before you get your concerns out, they aren’t being supportive. They are trying to impose their will upon you. Good advice comes from those who help you work through the problem.
- Offered options. Did the person provide you with alternatives? All the potential ways things could go wrong? This shows that they trust you enough to be able to make your own decisions based upon the facts.
- Specific steps. Were specific steps offered to complete their advice or was it just a big wad of cotton candy. Looked pretty from the outside, but had no substance?
- Things you know, but you don’t want to know. If your receiving advice from someone that cares about you, there’s likely a portion of truth in their message. They care enough about you to share their opinion with the knowledge that it cause an issue in your relationship. You might not want to hear it, but you might need to. This doesn’t mean that all advice of this nature should be acted upon, but it is worthy of your consideration.
- Promises. Did they promise you that everything would be fine? That if you follow exactly what they said to do that it will work. This is not good advice. No one can make that guarantee. There are too many variables within complex issues. They can’t tell the future.
- Provide emotional support. If the person is continuing to provide you emotional support and encouragement while you make your difficult decision, then they are likely to have given you good advice and be someone you want to seek out the next time you have a dilemma.
Who do you seek out to ask for advice?