5 Points to Being Present
“I want a piñata. No, a Hello Kitty birthday party. Or how about, a scooter. No, no, a puppy,” shouts your tiny monster. The list goes on and on.
Mommy wants a candy buffet with jars of decadent junk food.
Hey, not that kind of present!
Being present. What does it mean to be present?
To be present means that you are not reliving the past. You aren’t spending hours of your day thinking about the one who got away in high school; the time you wore one blue shoe and one black shoe to a party; or when someone pulled the bathroom door open on you while you were sitting on the potty. You can’t change those events from occurring. I’m not saying you should be flippant about your past. You must learn from your mistakes; just don’t wallow in them.
You will have less opportunity to worry if you are in the present.
5 Points to Being Present:
1. You are not replaying the past. You also aren’t re-doing past conversations. Going over what you did say and do. What you wished you would have said or done. What you would say and do now. Yes, you can role play situations to improve upon your social skills, but it fails to be beneficial when you are only living in your head.
2. You are not hearing an endless loop of negative self talk. You aren’t listening to your evil inner voice say how you suck as a mother because you had to return to work 4 weeks after the birth of your baby. You had to provide for your child. Without money, you wouldn’t have a safe, warm place for her to live. Or that you look fat in your summer shirts and why don’t you wear a baggy shirt to cover up those rolls. Self talk becomes the voice you believe and listen to.
3. You aren’t thinking about everything that needs to be done and never doing it. You can’t be thinking of everything that you need to be doing. True, you need to do the dishes, sweep the floor, and wash a load of laundry. Spend less time fretting and enlist some help. You could spend that 10 minutes of fretting time playing with or teaching your child to help. What you are being pulled to do is generally more important than that chore you’re worried about getting done.
4. You aren’t wishing your life away. You can’t wish your life away to a special time in the distance. The weekend. Your vacation. Retirement. Not every moment or every day can be special, but make as many of them count as you can. So, where does that leave us?
5. Not worrying about everything else. Embrace what you are doing in the moment. Listen to what your spouse or children are saying to you. Fill their and your own love tank. Give and do your best.
What points do you do to be in the present?
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